About The Adoption Projects
We have been providing guidance and tools to trauma parents, based on real life experiences since 2014. With our experience in fostering, adopting, and through research, we have tried the tools we teach, and know they work. We are here to help other parents and families succeed in parenting trauma children.
Parenting trauma children requires skills that aren’t traditional in parenting nature.
You will be parenting children who have experienced developmental trauma*, formerly known as reactive attachment disorder*. The impacts of developmental trauma for your child can be difficult to overcome, and very challenging to parent. We’ll guide you to learn these valuable tools:
What Is Developmental Trauma?
(formerly known as reactive attachment disorder) Developmental trauma, formerly known as reactive attachment disorder, requires an evaluation and diagnosis by a licensed professional. Most children that have developmental trauma have a history of sustained, perceived trauma in their developmental years, and experience a lack of or disrupted attachment to their parents and primary care givers.
Most often, it’s associated with physical abuse, sexual abuse, or neglect. Other traumas can include serious or chronic medical experiences, extended NICU or PICU stays, being a multiple in pregnancy, being a witness to domestic violence with parents and primary care givers, experiencing community and school violence, natural disasters, and/or a loss of a parent or primary care giver. Developmental trauma is widely present in the population of children that have histories or experiences of abuse, neglect, medical stress in their developmental years.
Common Signs And Patterns Parents Often Notice
It’s identified beginning at the age of 5 or older with signs and symptoms including, but are not limited too:
Early signs of developmental trauma are often recounted by primary givers, as early as infancy. Regardless of where you are with your developmental trauma child, we are here to prepare you as the parent or care giver!
Shop With Us
Once upon a time, a trauma mom named Jennifer took a chance, and reached out to me with a text message. We became fast friends. We met each other exactly where we were… in the ugly, lonely trenches of adoption.
In a particularly hard week, I received a text that said, ‘check your front porch’. I found a box full of snacks for my closet escape. I cried. It was everything to me in that moment.
And so, born was the idea of my Trauma Mama Friend Amazon List.
What Our Clients Are Saying
“If I had known at the beginning what I know now, I would have fought harder in different ways.”
“Rebecca was a lifeline for us in our time of crisis. She helped us navigate how to move forward in a broken mental health and family court system, wherever RAD and Complex Trauma is involved. She was in our corner and such a comfort while we made some of the hardest decisions of our lives. She continues to check on us and make sure we are okay, even now. We wouldn’t be healing the way we are today without her.”
“The tools. I have been looking for these since we started the long road to a diagnosis of RAD for our son.”
“Parent coaching helped us analyze our own reactions, shift our parenting choices, make a plan on how to respond different and work towards healthier parenting strategies, and create a calmer, more structured home.”
“It all makes sense now, which makes changing our parenting more logical. Our home is more peaceful and calm.”
“We felt seen, like really seen by Rebecca. She learned everything she could about our family, so she could meet us where we were, and help us be better together. That meant everything to us!”
“We were in way over our heads with a sibling group of three. All with very different, but intense developmental trauma and needs. Rebecca helped us learn how to manage and de-escalate the kids safely, how to keep ourselves safe, and put more specific structure into our daily routine, while keeping things as simple as possible.”
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